Webster’s Dictionary and Dictionary.com cites “mentor” as being a “trusted guide or teacher; a wise and influential teacher, senior sponsor or supporter.”
The Lord Jesus says in Matthew 15:52 that, “every teacher ... who has become a disciple in the Kingdom of Heaven is like the owner of a house who brings out of his storeroom new treasures as well as old.” And Proverbs 11: 25 says “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”
As Marriage Mentors we do this. We provide, “wise and influential instruction, counsel and support” and bring to bear “new treasures as well as old” and by refreshing others we will be ourselves refreshed...to a point, I might add. Here’s what I mean by that last additive statement ...
We also need to “mentor ourselves” and do self-care as a Mentor couple. That’s an important issue and one I’d like to encourage every mentor to do.
Each week my wife Laurie and I go out on a Wednesday night (sometimes also Sunday, Thursdays, Fridays ... or even Saturdays) and have a Date Night. I have found that doing them often but at a minimum one night a week works well. Some months depending on commitments with family, friends or others we don’t go out as much but generally we do at least once a week. Furthermore, in Ephesians 5:25 it says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.’ I take that to mean that, among other things, it’s the husbands responsibility to initiate those actions and activities on a regular basis. Laurie does also but that doesn’t relieve me ultimately of the responsibility. I cook, clean and take her out as much as is feasible for us both.
If you have small kids or grandkids in the house that may not be easy to do but being creative is always an option! Think picnic in the park, backyard or bringing home pizza on occasion. And by-the-way husbands, going out to Small Group does not count! 🙂
Date night is important and must be done. Be creative, be unusual and be consistent if not weekly. Bring home flowers (they’re $10 at the grocery store!).
Self- care is important. Date Night is just one way to keep ourselves sane by giving to ourselves after so much time, (and in some cases many, many years, even decades) of giving to others either through raising children, grandchildren or caring for our mentees. We need to take care of ourselves so we can really do well at taking care of others.
New treasures come from this. New treasures from old ones are a by-product of seasoning and wisdom of the Holy Spirit from years in the Christian Faith and walking with the Lord Jesus. You owe it to yourself to take care of yourself.
Remember, Proverbs 11: 24,“One gives freely, yet grows all the richer;” and Proverbs 11: 25, “A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.”
So as the add says, Just do it....be refreshed and prosper even more.
You’ll be glad you did.